Accepting Alzheimers, Coping in Alzheimers World

Posted On July 10th 2013

Did you ever wonder why most Alzheimer's patients stick like glue to their caregiver? Call out their name when they can't see them? Want to know where you are when they can't see you?
By Bob DeMarco +Alzheimer's Reading Room When a person has Alzheimer's disease or another type of dementia they are often difficult to understand. The behaviors they express are often difficult to accept. It can be hard to deal with a person living with Alzheimer's disease or a related dementia. It is hard to understand that a person can't remember. Harder to accept that when they can't remember, they will do things that are completely foreign to your frame of reference. Each of us has emotions and feelings. Alzheimer's has a way of bringing out the worst of these feelings and emotions in us. The challenge -- learning to deal with a person living with Alzheimer's on their own terms. Learning to deal with Alzheimer's disease.

Many caregivers come to the conclusion that the person living with Alzheimer's is not the person they knew. The person they knew most or all of their life. Is it possible to deal with a stranger? Is this supposed stranger likable? Can you like someone that continually makes you angry, frustrated and sad? See what is happening? You make the situation about you. This is not the person I knew. I knew. But Alzheimer's caregiving is not only about you. It is also about the person living with the disease. The "live - eR" cannot help or change the way they are acting. But, you can change the way you are acting or feeling. Sooner or later you have to start by reminding yourself this is my Mom, this is my Dad, this is my Husband, this is my Wife. Here is something I learned on the Alzheimer's Reading Room. Alzheimer's caregivers want to give, and try very hard to give, the person living with AD the highest quality of life possible. Striving for this goal is difficult. Near the beginning, it seems impossible for most of us.